Day 4. What is your opinion on love?
Over the last year I have learnt an awful lot about love and believe me, it wasn’t fun.
One main thing I learnt about love is that you can’t force it.
True love just happens.
Love doesn’t happen by one person confessing their love to the other and hoping for the best and love certainly doesn’t happen when you both decide to ‘give things another go’. It just doesn’t work like that.
Being in love is not all about sex, don’t get me wrong it helps on the odd occasion, but it’s not the answer to all your problems believe it or not.
You do not solve arguments by saying sorry, having sex and just forgetting about it. You need to sit down and be honest with each other, talk about what’s pissed you off and why you’ve argued. As well as that you need to think of it from their perspective, you have to consider how they may feel right now.
Everyone says that if you say sorry first you’re a push over but a lot of the time you’ll probably find you’ve done something wrong too, nobody’s perfect and by apologising and admitting you’ve done something wrong will only make you the bigger person.
You are not in love when you break up 5 times in a year however. If you’ve broken up with someone that many times stop going round in circles and kidding yourself, it’s clearly not meant to be. If that person makes you upset or angry more than they make you happy it’s a no brainier really.
Respect and trust plays an awful big part in love. If you have respect for someone then I’m pretty sure they’ll be able to trust you. But if you have no respect for them and are constantly texting other people, hiding things from them and seeing people behind their back then there is no trust and your relationship is just a joke really.
If you can live with that person everyday of your life without wanting to kill each other or upsetting each other every few hours then you’re right on track.
At some points throughout a relationship there will be times your other half will pick up things you can’t stand, and begin to do them constantly. At this point people begin to argue and domestics occur, however what you must remember is that nobody is perfect and that everybody has flaws, so you have to work with each other to resolve whatever the issue may be.
When you’re in love with someone they’re you’re best friend. You tell them everything, you share your problems with each other and you talk about your feelings to each other.
True love is when both of you feel the same way about each other.
It’s not true love if the other person has screwed you over more times than you can count. The only time this ever works is if you’ve been apart for half a year, moved on, learnt from your mistakes, then just fall in love again without even knowing it.
You can’t force true love, it just happens.